The key is to be a person who is confident and fun to be around. These are all fun, exciting activities that can get you personally involved and connected with a really great guy. Avoid getting sucked into a "I'm recently divorced and hate men" group of friends.
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"Know that it's okay to be exactly who you are," says Erik Newton, a former divorce lawyer and the founder of Together, a magazine and podcast for couples.
"You've grown and changed; you're stronger and wiser, and, yes, you also have some wounds.
If it's been so long since you've been in the game that you still think Netflix and chill means watching Netflix and well, chilling, it's fair to fear the world of swiping right and left and up and down.
Yes, it can be disheartening to jump back in to the dating world; weren't you supposed to be done with this?
And if that's the case, it's actually good news, because you have a great big arrow pointing at what's next for you to work on emotionally!
"You don't need to feel like you 'should' be out doing things," she says.
' That practice can bring you back to the present." Newton stresses the importance of breaking this habit: "If you're stuck in comparison mode, you can't appreciate your date for who they really are – they'll just be a reflection of what worked or didn't work about your ex."If you've been out of dating for quite some time, it's okay to be rusty. "You can't expect yourself to be a dating pro from the first moment you jump back in.
Take it easy and take the process at whatever pace feels comfortable to you." But, Newton says, "if you're experiencing inordinate amounts of fear about dating, that's a pretty good clue that you have some unresolved trauma from the marriage to work through.
"There's nothing to hide or be ashamed of, and avoiding the topic sets the tone that you're afraid of something." Moving on from the topic is equally as important as addressing it in the first place, Newton adds.
Make it "clear you're willing to discuss it, but that you've also put it behind you. If the topic comes up, you might say, 'I'm divorced.
She also recommends switching up your routine, which could mean anything from taking a different path to your office to trying a new coffee shop instead of your old standby. House suggests digging deeper than you usually would in conversations to learn more about people, places, and things.