I understand everyone has their preferences, but it's always been the most baffling thing to me how some people unabashedly put things like "Under 5'10" need not apply" right in their profile, dismissing someone right off the bat based on something so superficial.Though in fairness, when I see someone write something like that, I immediately lose attraction to their personality anyway.Meredith: I'm a trans woman who's 5'5", so average height for women in the States and shorter than most trans women I know.As someone who mostly — though not exclusively — dates men, I feel like my height has helped me a lot with dating, because men unconsciously perceive me as "normal," and I don't activate their unconscious transphobia as badly.Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
Chaya: I remember being teased for being short in middle school, as my girl friends had their puberty growth spurts and I stayed the same from sixth grade until forever.
That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground.
That self-consciousness definitely stems over into my dating life too, and with online dating even more.
There's nothing I can do about my height to resist these norms, but I can certainly say that I'm not a "small" person, aside from physically, and guys come to see that soon after meeting me.
However, some things are near inescapable; I wish I had a penny for every time a guy called me a "firecracker" as a compliment.
I've been told more than a few times that "there's no way I can tell you're trans," and that helps men feel comfortable dating me.